Did you know that every negative thing that said to us or happens to us takes five positive ones to outweigh it? Being parents we should understand this and we can be aware. We need to be careful with our words because our words become our children’s inner voice. Whatever we say or do put a deep impact on their minds. Our children need to see us modeling positive behavior so they can pass it onto others.
It’s unfortunate but our children have to deal with bullies, same as we had to when we were their age. Whether or not you or your children were or are bullied, you know that it exists and we have to do something about it. Today, I am going to share some tips in this post to turn those negative interactions into positive ones.
I have never been one to stand by while someone is bullied. But I will raise my kids to be an upstander. I don’t want them to feel the same way I did. I don’t want my children to be a bystander who watches someone being put down or bullied, either in real life or online.
I will teach them not to support mean behavior and stand up for kindness and positivity. By stopping the bullying, it also stops the negativity and bad behavior that goes with it from spreading and harming someone.
How do we stop it?
Teach kids what to do
Let your kids know that if they see someone being bullied, either in real life or online, they can intervene ( only if it’s safe) or can also report it to a parent, teacher, guardian, or school counselor. Mostly, a bully will only pick on someone if an adult is not near, in such situation teach them to report it immediately. And also, be sure to teach your kids how to block the person doing the bullying, if they’re the ones being bullied.
Teach kids what not to do
Make them understand that it’s not “okay” to spread rumors or to share a hurtful social media post or comment.
Teach them about Kindness
Talk to them about how we help the others under attack by being kind to them. They can give compliments, say nice words or offer to help that child or person. Kindness goes a long way.
Listen to your children
Let your children know that they have opinions and those opinions also matter like elders. Holding family discussions where your children have a say in the matter is important to let kids know that they have a voice that deserves to be respectfully heard.
Teach your children the meaning of Reporting
Every kid is so afraid of being labeled a tattletale that they do not want to say anything even against wrong deeds. Make sure that your kids know the difference between tattling and reporting.
Tattling is when you want to get someone into trouble when they are not hurting themselves or anyone else.
Reporting is when you’re trying to help get or keep someone out of trouble to prevent them from getting hurt or hurting someone else.
Practice in the Classroom
Tell your children’s teachers to teach them about bullying. Ask them to teach kids the fundamentals of digital citizenship and safety so that they can explore the online world with confidence.
Teach them to have Empathy
Our kids need to learn empathy for others. Sometimes the most important thing that we can do to someone is by letting them know that we care. Be a friend when they see someone in need of a friend.
Do or Act it out at Home
We often do role-playing at home to teach children how to handle a particular situation. One person is the bully, another person is the one being picked on and a third person can be the upstander.
There are a lot of good books that teach kids how to stand up for themselves & others. Go to the library and ask the librarian to help you find a few.
Today, it is important that our children have the confidence to stand up for others and themselves when parents are not around. It is an important skill and lesson that our kids will need in their life. Use every opportunity that you get to teach your children to be kind and stand up for what they believe in.